The Maid of Honor's Duty
Her Role in a Wedding
The role that the maid of honor plays in the wedding depends largely on how much responsibility she is
willing to take on and also how much responsibility the bride is willing to delegate.
In general the maid of honor was chosen because she is one of the bride’s closest friend.
Her duties as a maid of honor do not differ that much from her duties as a friend. The role of the
maid of honor is not to simply walk down the aisle ahead of the bride and stand beside her during the ceremony; she
also is one of the most supportive assistants to the bride during the wedding preparations.
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Although there are some responsibilities that she takes on such as hosting the bridal shower and bachelorette
party and helping to choose the bridesmaid’s dresses, she is also just there to be supportive of the bride and
to be a friend and confidant and to help her in any way possible.
Hosting the bridal shower and the bachelorette party are two of the main
responsibilities of the maid of honor. Since the maid of honor is probably one of the bride’s
closest friends it stands to reason that the maid of honor is the ideal candidate to host these two
gatherings. It is the maid of honor who will know best what type of party the bride is looking forward to,
what she will enjoy and what types of gifts are most appropriate for the bride’s taste. The bridal shower and
bachelorette party are also typically parts of the wedding preparations that the bride does not have any
direct control over but she usually does not stress about these activities because she has faith that her maid
of honor will hold her best interests in mind when planning these parties. The maid of honor also plays a
large role in choosing dresses for the wedding.
The maid of honor typically chooses her own dress for the wedding from a selection provided by the
Once the color and style of the maid of honor’s dress has been established, the maid
of honor works closely with the bride to choose a style and color of dress for the
bridesmaids that will look good on each of the bridesmaids and also complement the maid of honor’s dress. The
maid of honor also plays a role in assisting the bride in choosing her own wedding dress. While there may be
many other friends and relatives who shop with the bride for her dress, it is the opinion of the maid of honor
that is generally most valued by the bride.
The wedding day is a very busy day for a maid of honor. Although she has supported the bride throughout the
planning process, her most important responsibilities take place on the actual wedding day. Besides simply walking
down the aisle and standing on the altar beside her friend the most important roles that the maid of honor plays is
to keep the bride calm and to handle and problems that may arise. Very few weddings actually go exactly as planned
and it is the maid of honor’s job to make sure that small setbacks do not unnerve the bride.
The maid of honor should also have a stash of emergency supplies on hand such as extra stockings, lipstick in
the shade the bride is wearing, tissues, safety pins and hair pins. All of these items can come in handy if the
bride has any trouble with her attire, hair or makeup. The maid of honor plays the important role of ensuring that
the bride is looking her best even after hours of dancing and talking to friends and family members. Perhaps the
most significant role that the maid of honor plays is to be a friend to the bride. The planning and preparations
and the actual wedding itself can be very stressful and emotional for the bride. The one thing that the bride needs
more than anything else at this time is someone to talk to who will understand her concerns and give her practical
advice and this is the most important job of the maid of honor. The maid of honor plays a much more important role
than just walking down the aisle before the bride and holding her flowers during the ceremony.
Throughout the planning the maid of honor is involved every step of the way from choosing a dress and location
to helping to wrap favors and set up for the reception. As the bride’s best friend the most important role the maid
of honor can play is to be supportive and understanding of the bride.
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