It's in your best interests
to learn to delegate responsibilities
Wedding planning is a major responsibility and while
it is important to know exactly what you want, it’s also important to realize that planning a wedding is far too
stressful for the bride to look after every detail herself.
Even though many brides find it difficult relinquishing any responsibilities, because they fear losing control,
it’s really in the bride’s best interest to learn how to plan a wedding and in particular to
The key to delegating is to entrust others to take control of areas that you may not be especially particular
about. The parents of the bride, the maid of honor, parents of the groom and even the groom himself are all
probably keen and willing to help out with the wedding plans and it is important to let them do so. For example,
the bride may not be too particular about how the place cards are written out so this might be an example of a
responsibility that can easily be delegated.
Planning a Wedding - The Favors
The favors are a very important part of the wedding and the bride
most likely wants to shop for and choose the favors herself. Her maid of honor or soon to be husband may
accompany her on this shopping excursion for support and to offer their opinions but this is not likely a task
that the bride will want to relinquish.
However, the bride may not be too particular about how the place cards are written out so this might be an example
of a responsibility that can easily be delegated. While the bride wouldn’t want to allow another member of the
wedding party to choose her wedding dress, she may be interested in delegating other responsibilities related to
her dress. For example the bridal shop probably sent the wedding dress out to be cleaned subsequent to the bride’s
final fitting and it would be acceptable for the bride to entrust a trusted friend or family member with picking up
the wedding dress and storing it wherever the bride will be dressing for the wedding. Although the wedding dress
may be one of the most important items to the bride, she will likely not mind having someone else run out to
retrieve the dress because it gives the bride just one less thing to worry about.
Then there’s the reception. The bride may wish to draw up exact
specifications to demonstrate the look that she wants but she will surely be able to trust a family member to
follow her directions and prepare the room to her expectations. As the reception area likely has to be set
just prior to the reception it is really not feasible for the bride to be completing this task as she will
most likely be needed elsewhere for photography sessions.
Still another aspect of the wedding that it may be wise to delegate is the addressing of thank you card envelopes.
Once the guest list has been finalized and the guests have all RSVPed, it can be assumed that you will need a thank
you card for each guest who responded affirmatively. The bride is likely to have no particular opinion on how the
envelopes should be addressed so this is a perfect task to delegate. This is a menial but time consuming task that
doesn’t directly affect the wedding so it is a prime candidate for delegation.
The stresses of planning a wedding can be extremely overwhelming for a bride who has not learned to delegate
responsibilities to friends and family members who are likely standing by eager to help in any way possible. While
it is understandable that a bride may wish for everything to happen according to her vision, it is also important
to realize that although you may want to control every aspect of the wedding and the wedding planning; sometimes it
is necessary to delegate responsibilities. Sharing certain responsibilities not only makes the bride feel less
overwhelmed but also gives her more available time to focus on the critical aspects of her wedding planning.
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