5 Tips for Including Children in a Wedding
Children can make a wonderful addition to any wedding but they also have the potential
for livening up the wedding with unexpected antics.
It is important to consider the age, maturity level and predictability of the child before deciding to
include them in the wedding.
If you wish to include children in your wedding as either a ring bearer, a flower girl or by assigning them a
task that helps them to feel included, take care to follow these tips to help things run as smooth as possible and
to make participating in your wedding a pleasurable experience for the child. One tip for including children in
your wedding is to understand that children under a certain age may not be capable of performing a role in the
wedding ceremony and that even if the child is old enough to understand what is required of them; there are no
guarantees that they will complete their task on the wedding day.
Try to choose a ring bearer and flower girl who are over the age of four and while the adult participants may
only need to run through their part once, allow extra time for the child to practice their part several times. If
you choose a very young child or a child that is particularly shy you may want to consider having their parent
accompany them down the aisle so that they are not overwhelmed on the day of the wedding. Also, be prepared for the
child to completely forget what they are supposed to do and don’t allow their mistakes to put a damper on your
wedding day. The odds are that if the child does not perform well, the other guests will simply laugh so feel free
to laugh along with them and enjoy the pleasure that comes with including a child in your wedding. Another tip for
including children in your wedding is to try to really make it an experience that the child is looking forward to.
One way to do this is to ask the child to participate in your wedding a few weeks in advance so that the child has
time to really get excited about the idea and has a chance to tell their friends about how they are going to be in
a wedding and wear a special outfit. Another way to get the child excited is to take them shopping for their
wedding attire instead of choosing an outfit for them without their input. This helps to make the child feel as
though their opinions are valued plus it lets them choose an outfit that they like and will look forward to
Still another tip for including children in your wedding is to have the photographer take any pictures that will
include the children early in the photography session. While it is true that many children enjoy having their
picture taking, they may grow impatient and irritable if they have to wait a long time to have their photos taken.
Additionally, children are not used to standing still for a long time and will probably want to run and play which
may result in rips or wrinkles in their wedding attire. If the parents of the child are not in the wedding party
you may want to ask one of the bridesmaids to assume responsibility for the child before the wedding, during the
wedding and during the photography session so that the parents do not have to stay nearby and can enjoy the wedding
and the cocktail hour. You might want to supply the bridesmaid with a small bag containing snacks and toys that
will be useful in keeping the child occupied during times that may seem boring to them.
If you have a number of children in your family and want to include many of them one useful tip is to give each
child a specific job. You may not be able to include all of your young friends or relatives as ring bearers or
flower girls but you can give them each a task such as handing out wedding programs or bags of birdseed or placing
the favors on the table at the reception.
The children will feel important and you get to include them without adding length to the ceremony. When
including children in a wedding, it is important to understand that they may not do everything perfectly but you
shouldn’t get upset with them and should instead enjoy the fun that they bring to the wedding with their spirit and
enthusiasm. Including children in your wedding can be a lot of fun but there are some precautions that should be
taken. Following the tips in this article will help to ensure that the children are excited to participate in your
wedding and are well prepared to do so.
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